Feeling depressed because your sex life is not the same as it used to be is understandable. As a man, your self-worth and role in relationships are often defined by your virility. Not being able to maintain an erection is often seen as a failure of your manhood, and perhaps a comment on your partner’s desirability.
The truth is that erectile problems can happen to anyone and at any stage of life. Stress, drinking, and a genetic disposition can all contribute to early onset erectile problems. Physiological changes and a decrease in male sex hormones as you age mean many men over the age of 50 will suffer from ED.
So how can you start to address some of the emotional, physical, and mental challenges that have presented themselves as part of your erectile dysfunction (ED)?
How can you feel comfortable as a man and reconcile yourself to taking Viagra or seeking professional help for your problems?
Here are some tips that hopefully will help…
Common causes of ED & how to treat it
Treating erectile dysfunction (also known as impotence) is not the same as treating sexual dysfunction. ED is not usually a sign of an absence of arousal, it’s a physiological or psychological issue that lowers a man’s ability to get and sustain an erection. It can be caused by stress, hormonal imbalance, and common medical conditions that affect nerve endings like diabetes. ED can also be caused by tissue damage and some genetic conditions.
Either way, it does not usually mean a lack of arousal or decreased interest in sex. In fact, ED treatments like Viagra only work if you are also sexually aroused. These famous ‘blue pills’ won’t give you an ‘automatic’ erection, but will help you maintain one if and when you get aroused as part of sexual activity.
The link between ED and depression
It’s common to feel stress, anxiety, and a low mood due to ED. It can be hard to maintain a positive outlook when your sex life is being affected and this can create a vicious circle of depression and ED.
Here are some of the things you can do to help with depression caused by ED:
- Speak to a doctor about your ED
- Speak to your doctor about your depression (they could be linked)
- Try over the counter Viagra (available in the UK and sold as Viagra Connect)
- Speak to your partner about your feelings
- Explore your sexuality in a safe space
- Get support from family
- Get plenty of exercise, eat well, and enough sleep
- Try to manage and control your stress levels (meditation, yoga, sauna etc.)
- Attend a local men’s group or ED support group.
Over the counter Viagra: an easy solution?
In the UK, you can buy Viagra over the counter in the form of Viagra Connect. In fact, you can even buy Viagra Connect online at reputable online pharmacies.
It’s one of the quickest and easiest ways to effectively treat ED. Over the counter Viagra (sildenafil citrate) is a safe and affordable way to treat your erectile symptoms yourself.
Viagra Connect works because of its active ingredient sildenafil citrate (the same one that powers prescription Viagra). The pills will only give you an erection if you are aroused.
Buying Viagra Connect safely
Always check where you buy your Viagra from. Counterfeit pharmacies offering cheaper alternatives to Viagra and websites selling dubious products like Kamagra should be avoided at all cost. Only use a registered and safe online pharmacy if buying Viagra online.
Can anyone take Viagra Connect?
It’s meant for men suffering from ED who want to engage in sexual activity and have problems maintaining an erection. It has positive reviews and the retail price for Viagra Connect in the UK is about £19.99 for four pills.
Taking Viagra — what you need to know
Taking Viagra at home is safe, but you do need to keep the following in mind:
- Read labels and any safety instructions carefully
- Viagra only works if you’re genuinely sexually aroused — don’t force it
- Stop taking it if you have any adverse reactions
- Always discuss any concerns with your doctor or pharmacist.
Alternative therapies for ED
As well as Viagra Connect, you may want to try talking therapy (depending on the root cause of your ED). You can also get a prescription for other common ED treatments like Viagra, Cialis, Sildenafil etc. Lifestyle changes may also help you beat erectile dysfunction.
In general, improving the way you feel about yourself may help you beat both ED and depression. And remember, the ability to have an erection does not define you as a man.